Welcome to the new Question and Answer series at GNOWFGLINS! I'm looking forward to what comes of it. Many questions come through the comments or the contact form; some of them can be better answered by reaching out to all of you for your input. So, please jump in with your thoughts, suggestions, and best advice to help a reader out.
I am very much looking forward to the year to come, and what is in store with your site. And really grateful that I am able to meet like minded people online. Sometimes it is very difficult to be “different” from those around me, especially family members.
I am just wondering if you or any of your readers have any advice for dealing with negativity in regards to how I choose to feed my family. Most of the time it is easy going, but once in a while I feel like people around me are trying to sabotage what I am working so hard at, in feeding and teaching my family about real food.
Tiffany, this is a great question! I totally get how you feel, because I've been there. I think our approach to people who do this should always be confident and loving.
Confidence and Love
We should be confident in our food choices, remembering why we've decided to embrace God's foods. In your case, you've been healed of a serious disease – Crohn's – and have proof that what you're doing has made a difference. This is a fantastic testimony! For others, the proof might not be so strong, but the compulsion to eat healthfully comes from a belief that God's foods are healthiest.
There's another kind of confidence, though, and this is the one that is hardest for me. I get very emotional about things like this, and always need some time to recover and release the burden to the Lord. He says,
“Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:30)
I believe this, but it is hard to do! I have to remind myself to put it all in perspective. In the scheme of things, these issues are not that big a deal. Yes, they hurt. And especially if they happen over and over again. But God knows. And leaving it in His hands offers a certain freedom.
Have you heard people say, “What can I do?” about tricky situations, as they kind of bow out and admit defeat? Well, this is different than that. We say, “What can we do?” because we can't do anything about that other person. We're giving up, but not our goals, just the hurt. We give it to the Lord.
And we have to remember that no matter how people wrong us, God asks us to love them. I don't know how this looks in every particular. I believe God will show us how to do it when we ask Him. For me, loving the person that is hurting me is a bit of recognizing that I cannot change them, and continuing to be kind, patient, a good listener, and cheerful. There are some people who are gifted with the right words to say in a difficult moment; I am not one of them! I wish I was. It takes everything I've got to keep smiling and keep it together.
What advice would you give Tiffany? How do you handle negative family and friends? Perhaps there is an issue where you receive negativity that is different from food, but it applies here. I'm looking forward to what you share. If you have a question to ask in this series, use the contact form.
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